As we are on Mothers Day eve it is always a great time to reflect and review on what this motherhood gig is all about.
I can proudly say I have accrued long service leave with 10+ years of mothering under my belt.
I have successfully kept two small humans alive and well and grown them into semi humans.
Reflection is always a good thing, just like hindsight. It allows you to review and potentially make some changes moving forward.
As women we are not always that kind to each other- we judge, bitch and offer advice that is not always wanted or asked for.
I feel the motherhood code needs some reviews and changes.
- Listen more than talk
- Understand more than judge
- The grass isn’t always greener
- Friendship can be for a reason, a season or a lifetime
- Trust your mumstincts
We are so judgemental at times especially if it is a situation we haven’t been in. This parenthood is difficult and at time your realise the ‘rules’ are not really that official.
Bath once a day, once a week its top to you.
Burp don’t burp- its up to you.
Breastfeed or bottle feed its up to you.
I encourage all new mums to look at their family situation and small humans and make the best decisions that they can. To be safe and to trust their instincts.
On of the hardest things for the adapting new mum can be the changes in friendships. This can make you feel like you are missing out or your group of friends offer advice or judgement that isn’t helpful. It is important to know that things change, friendships change. Sometimes you see a good friend every day then other times its once a year.
So on mothers day lets be good friends and support to our fellow members of the motherhood journey.
The Baby Manual has some great insight into the motherhood changes with Dr Jodie Benvensite http://www.thebabymanual.com.au
Please try and adapt the motherhood code to your day to day interactions. Remember your kind words can be the thing that helps a new mummy smile and be proud of herself.
Happy Mothers Day to all the amazing mums out there 🙂